Take the time

A soul that completes your own. A person that when they are next to you, you feel complete, happy, serine. What happens to someone when one or the other decides to leave? Emptiness, sorrow, a feeling of having lost a part of yourself along with this other person. How do you get over something like that? Is there really a day that comes when you just stop loving them? Putting on a mask for the world, so you can do what you need to do, perhaps is the best you can manage. They are in your dreams, in your thoughts, and still very much a part of your life emotionally. Is it obsession? The dictionary describe obsession as follows , a persistent disturbing preoccupation with an often unreasonable idea or feeling; compelling motivation an obsession with profits. So by definition, technically, eating could be an obsession. If you don't eat you will die, you are compelled to eat to survive. So not a very fitting definition. A persistent disturbing preoccupation with an often unreasonable idea or feeling. In my opinion obsession does not cover Love, esp true love.
Now let's look at Love.... strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties.
When you find that certain someone, that makes you feel alive for the first time. Feel truly loved and adored for all that you are, and you return those feelings to the one you love. What can go wrong with a situation like that? Some might say, pride, greed, unfaithfulness can disrupt those things, but if you love someone so much, why would you do anything to hurt their feelings.

We are all human, is the answer, with your many faults. We get caught up in our lives, our jobs, our projects, our wants and desires. Sometimes some of those situations don't exactly mix with our soulmates, and friction is created. How you deal with that friction is where the key lies. Taking the time to talk, to do things together, to accept each other for who they are. You can only change yourself, you can't change anyone else.

So a little more back on track, if the friction takes place, and continues for some time, it puts strain on both sides of the relationship, resentment builds if not talked about, resentment builds bitterness, and bitterness breeds hate. So if things are left undealt with, two people who love each other very much, end up hating each other, because each one can't believe the other one, did what they did, or feels like they do, or any number of reasons that could have been diffused.

Plus there is always the friend factor, you have people on both sides of the fence, "Oh you're making a big mistake, you're better off without him/her," or any number of combinations of things, especially if they like to see drama take place, they want to stir it up so they benefit in some way, given these people aren't really your friends, but you won't know that until its too late down the road. The only way to be sure, is to listen to your heart and not to others on what you should do.

If you find yourself being upset at your other half, take the time to evaluate it. Is it really worth fighting about? Is it really that big of a deal in the big scheme of things? How would you feel if this argument was the last thing you two ever said to each other?

Think about it, you never know when that moment may be your last together.